Have you ever felt like you are not an adult, like you are just pretending to be your idea of what an adult is? Do you wonder if the others are going to see through your facade and know that you are just playing at being an adult? My standard of what a man should be has always been my Father. He has been dead for about 4 years now. I know he would tell me he is proud of me, and that I’ve become the man he hoped I would be. He never showed us any doubt. He was always so outwardly confident, or perhaps that is the way it seemed to a child’s perception. I know he did have doubts and fears. I know he confided in his Wife. I have done the same thing. I wonder though, if the strength he portrayed to us wasn’t there, what kind of man would I be? Because of my Father, I can safely say, I am a more godly man than I would have been without Him. Because of His example, I took several, I mean several leaps of faith to do what I thought would have been the right thing, the thing Dad would have done, or been proud of. Ladies, this can apply to you and your godly mothers as well. I know my Dad wasn’t perfect, and he made mistakes that he privately regretted, but he was as good a Father to me and my Brother as he could have been. Now that Dad is gone, I don’t feel alone, or on shaky ground. Why? Because I’ve got another Father. A perfect Father who is not flawed. I have a Father who gave me and my Brother, and our Mother, the perfect man to accomplish His will in our lives. Dad might not have been the adult that we saw with our little eyes, and thought of with our childish minds, but he was the man that God used to bring us to Him. Dad was strong and compassionate, he was hard and thoughtful, he was self-sacrificing and forgiving. It was so much easier for me to see the character of Christ in a man most people would have called marginally Christian, than in many who put on a good show of being an adult. God the Father, in His perfect knowledge and sovereignty, “causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Because of who God the Father is, I had the human Father He wanted for me. He used my Dad to lead one of His elect to Him. I was so lost as a young man. I loved myself more than anything or anyone else. I loved my own pleasures, and hated those who would deny me. Now because of the memories of my Father, and the testimony of the Word of God, and the Holy Spirit, I am a partaker in God’s grace. I have been adopted by the true Father of all who are born again. I and my Dad, are brother’s in Christ. I hope to see him again in eternity, and worship the Lord Jesus, with him as well. I hope and pray that my Brother, and his family, my oldest Step-Son, my present, and future Grandchildren, and all of you will be with us to, as brothers and sister, unified in love, and the love of Christ Jesus. We all have doubts and fears in life. We are uncertain at times, but look to God, fix your eyes on Jesus, and what He did for you in His life, crucifixion, and resurrection. There is one God, and only one way of salvation, it is Jesus Christ. Repent of your sins, and believe. He will grant you new life and make you a new person, just like He did for me. I’m not always assured and confident in my position, but I am so confident and sure of God, and because He is good, I know that whatever I go through in life is for my sanctification. It is to shape me into the the adult man, that He wants me to be. I hope that when I am dead, the people whom God has given me to be with will be able to say the same about me that I have said about my Father.
If the LDS are right about who God is, then God and His word are wrong.
In the Bible we have doctrines that are expressed by Jesus Himself, The one and only God incarnate, none ever before Him and none after Him anywhere or anytime. These doctrines are repeated and expounded upon by the Apostles in the Epistles of the New Covenant recorded in the New Testament. These doctrines are exclusive claims to actual truths. When someone else confesses a doctrine that asserts something other than what has already been established by the one true, immutable, and infallible God, then our only option is to reject their assertion as heresy.
Let’s look at some of their doctrines that conflict with Biblical doctrines, and are mutually exclusive in their claims. Christians claim there is only one true God. There has never been any other god besides Him. He has always existed in trinity. He has never not existed. We also claim that if you don’t believe in Him as explained here, as one being in three personages, that you can not be called part of the Church. Because, you have put your faith in a different god. Obviously, worshipping a different god makes you not a Christian.
Latter Day Saints (LDS or Mormons) do not have one triune God. They actually have a number of gods approaching infinity. They choose to worship just one of the gods Joseph Smith imagined for them. The god they choose to worship, was once a man named Elohim. He lived on a planet orbiting a star called Kolab. So their god is an E.T. extra terrestrial, alien from outer space. Allegedly he was such a good follower of the mormon doctrines that he was promoted to being an exalted man. He eventually became the god of this solar system and the Earth that we live on. So the one god that they worship out of the billions of gods they have, was once a created man. He was born of his father god and goddess mother. They now call him Heavenly Father and believe he has a body of flesh and bone. They believe that he had sex with Mary the virgin and that Jesus the spirit child was then embodied in his biological son with Mary. Here is a quote from the Brigham Young University site,
As the Prophet Joseph Smith said, “God himself was once as we are now, and is an exalted man, and sits enthroned in yonder heavens! That is the great secret” (TPJS, p. 345). Thus, the Father became the Father at some time before “the beginning” as humans know it, by experiencing a mortality similar to that experienced on earth. There has been speculation among some Latter-day Saints on the implications of this doctrine, but nothing has been revealed to the Church about conditions before the “beginning” as mortals know it. The important points of the doctrine for Latter-day Saints are that Gods and humans are the same species of being, but at different stages of development in a divine continuum, and that the heavenly Father and Mother are the heavenly pattern, model, and example of what mortals can become through obedience to the gospel (see Mother in Heaven). Knowing that they are the literal offspring of Heavenly Parents and that they can become like those parents through the gospel of Jesus Christ is a wellspring of religious motivation. With God as the literal Father and with humans having the capacity to become like him, the basic religious questions “Where did I come from?,” “Why am I here?,” and What is my destiny?” are fundamentally answered.
Keep in mind that our LDS friends co-opt many of our words. They mean something completely different to them. When we talk of God the Father or Jesus we are talking about a very different God than they are. They might believe we are talking about the same god, but they have better and more true information than we do. The gospel to them is not the same things we think of. Their gospel is a bunch of laws, rules, do’s and don’ts, from their book Doctrine and Covenants. Our understanding comes from the Biblical definition. The word, “gospel” means, “good message or news.” When we think of the gospel of Jesus, we understand it to mean the penal substitutionary atonement wrought by Christ God Himself for the salvation of His sovereignly elected saints to bring glory to His name. In Christianity the work has been done by Jesus. He paid for our sins. By repenting and believing in Him, his work is imputed to us. It is done, done, done. We do good works because of our new affections and desires born from a regenerated spirit as born again believers.
with this article on only of few of the many differences, I hope it is obvious that the LDS are not Christian. They are a polytheistic Arian cult, created by the false prophet Joseph Smith.
Luke 9:23-26 (NASB) And He was saying to them all, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me. “For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it. “For what is a man profited if he gains the whole world, and loses or forfeits himself? “For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of him when He comes in His glory, and the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.
Who has crucified their own flesh daily? Who truly follows Christ? What does it mean to follow Christ? We all want to save our lives. None of us want to die. To crucify yourself you must take up your cross and follow Jesus all the way to Golgotha. When you rise in the morning, see the sinful desires of your selfish flesh. See how they would entice you to do things to appease them? Wage a violent war against the natural man who is tied to you. He is dead already if you are saved, but his corpse is always before you. We fight what he used to revel in. Put those desires to death. Crucify your worldly desires and have them supplanted by the new affections of the regenerated heart. As this occurs, you’ll praise God for the loss of your old life and the gift of your new one in Jesus. To do His loving will, to carry it out in the world that is perishing, to show grace where it is not merited, to have mercy on those in need, to give to them the words of life, the gospel message of Christ Jesus, the Lord, Master, and Author of our faith, granted to us along with repentance while we were yet sinners, enemies of God, under the condemnation of sin, freed by His grace and imputed righteousness. Proclaim salvation from sins in Him to all the world. What good is earthly pleasure on this temporal plain when such a thing as an ageless age exists, where time is not marked? Our lives are short compared to such an existence. What is discomfort or tribulation here, even much of it, compared to eternity with God? Be bold in preaching His word and the gospel of His redemptive work on the cross. Be bold in the preaching of His resurrection from the dead.
I’m really rotten. When I am weary, people can catch a whiff of the corpse that is with me. I can try to perfume my corpse and cover it with ornate raiment, but that stench permeates and exudes forth in my futile efforts to conceal my corruption. It might not be evident to all, but it is ever before me, haunting my conscience with the knowledge of all I’ve done wrong and failed to do good. Only the continual washing of grace can cleanse the festering corruption. One day that rotten body of death will no longer be with me. I will be glorified in Heaven with God. I will be finally free from sin in all of its forms. By the obedient loving work of Jesus on the cross and the Holy Spirit in my regeneration in accordance with the Fathers will, I will know what it is to be free from sins corruption for all eternity, an ageless age! O how I love Jesus! Praise His name! The one who saves the hopeless and gives victory over sin!
The next time a Mormon tells you that you are anti-mormon you tell them that you are not and that they are anti-Christian. Then point them to the account of, “The First Vision” and Doctrine and Covenants 130. Then they will see just how anti-everyone else they are. Here is what the First Vision says about us;
17 It no sooner appeared than I found myself delivered from the enemy which held me bound. When the light rested upon me I saw two Personages, whose brightness and glory defy all description, standing above me in the air. One of them spake unto me, calling me by name and said, pointing to the other—This is My Beloved Son. Hear Him!
18 My object in going to inquire of the Lord was to know which of all the sects was right, that I might know which to join. No sooner, therefore, did I get possession of myself, so as to be able to speak, than I asked the Personages who stood above me in the light, which of all the sects was right (for at this time it had never entered into my heart that all were wrong)—and which I should join.
19 I was answered that I must join none of them, for they were all wrong; and the Personage who addressed me said that all their creeds were an abomination in his sight; that those professors were all corrupt; that: “they draw near to me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me, they teach for doctrines the commandments of men, having a form of godliness, but they deny the power thereof.”
20 He again forbade me to join with any of them; and many other things did he say unto me, which I cannot write at this time.
So according to the, “First Vision” we are all wrong and our beliefs are abominable. Oh and Joseph Smith says there that the Father and Jesus appeared both bodily. This is also backed up by D&C 130 which I will now quote;
“ 21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.
22 The Father has a body of flesh and bones as tangible as man’s; the Son also; but the Holy Ghost has not a body of flesh and bones, but is a personage of Spirit. Were it not so, the Holy Ghost could not dwell in us.” https://www.lds.org/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/130?lang=eng
So you can see here how they claim that the Father also has a body of flesh and blood even though the Bible teaches that the Father is Spirit. We worship a different God then they do. Don’t let Mormons get away with calling you anti-mormon when you disagree with them. If they do, show them how they were anti-Christian first. We have 2000 years of orthodoxy, tons of artifacts, over 4500 pieces of textual evidence supporting the continuity of the Bible, and geographic sites all over the middle east that support what the Bible says. They have the wild imaginings of a fallen sinner hungry for power, wealth, and sexual immorality.
Why don’t we have a problem when God chooses people in some scriptures, but when it comes to salvation we say, “God is a gentleman and would never force us to choose Him against our freewill!”
For instance in Acts 40 we don’t have a problem with God choosing who would see Him after the resurrection. “39“We are witnesses of all the things He did both in the land of the Jews and in Jerusalem. They also put Him to death by hanging Him on a cross. 40“God raised Him up on the third day and granted that He become visible, 41not to all the people, but to witnesses who were chosen beforehand by God, that is, to us who ate and drank with Him after He arose from the dead.” (Acts 10:39-41)
But, in Ephesians 1:3-5 when Paul tells us how God chose who would be saved by Jesus before He made the world everybody gets all offended about having their precious sinful, I mean ahem, “freewill” getting violated. Excuse me, but I’d much rather have a divine intervention and go to Heaven than have a, “freewill” any day. That is because I understand that before regeneration and justification my will is a sinful will, a curse from the fall, a will that is enslaved to do nothing but evil continuously. After all aren’t we supposed to pray that the will of the Father be done? Aren’t we supposed to become more like Jesus and less like ourselves? Aren’t we supposed to die to ourselves daily and take up the cross of Christ? It sure seems like our wills should be replaced with God’s will.
I think the problem lies in the sin of pride. People think to highly of themselves and their abilities to please God, they don’t see how sinful their sin is, and they definitely don’t contrast it with the holiness and righteousness of God. They need to see God as completely transcendent, totally other, instead they have to elevate man and lower God to protect their notion of freedom. We should magnify God and humble ourselves.
I’m not saying that we are not responsible for our sin either. People try to say that it is a mutually exclusive statement. They say if you don’t have our brand of freewill then God can’t hold you responsible for your sin. It seems to make sense. Of course you would have to lower God and elevate man. We are still morally culpable for sin because we are born sinners and choose it continuously because of our state of being dead in our sins and being slaves to our sin natures. When God saves someone of His grace and mercy it is exactly that way. He saves them by His grace (unmerited favor). They did nothing to deserve salvation. Matter of fact, everything they have done has come from a corrupted heart. If God planned it this way then we as creatures have no right to judge Him or His plan. He owns us and has all rights to us. He would be just in destroying all of us whenever He wants to. The fact that He saves any of us is wonderful news.
We make choices that are consistent with our natures. God is consistent with His attributes. God cannot be unjust, or evil, or untrue. In the same way a sinner cannot be desirous of God while yet a slave to their sinful nature. (Romans 5:8) “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” In their sinful nature they make all kinds of choices that are consistent with that nature. These choices are allowed by God in His sovereign will to be used by Him for good in accordance with His will. I would remind you that the problem is pride and how we see God, ourselves, and sin. He ultimately has ownership rights over all of us as Creator and can do with us as He sees fit.
19You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who resists His will?” 20On the contrary, who are you, O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? 21Or does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use? 22What if God, although willing to demonstrate His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction? 23And He did so to make known the riches of His glory upon vessels of mercy, which He prepared beforehand for glory, 24even us, whom He also called, not from among Jews only, but also from among Gentiles. (Romans 9:19-24)
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, what does it all mean? I had trouble with this when I was younger, but over the years good teachers and wiser men informed by God’s word have been able to help me. I would like to help those of you who might be having some difficulties with the titles.
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, are titles of roles that each one of the personages of the trinity are. Jesus isn’t literally the offspring produced by sexual copulation like the Mormons believe. He isn’t a created being made from the essence of God or brought forth from it like the Arians believe. (Assemblies of Yahweh, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and Mormons) Jesus is co-eternal along with the other two personages of the trinity. The title of, “Son” explains the eternal purpose of His role. Jesus before His incarnation as the hypostatic union existed. We know that everything was made by Him. Before God made anything, He had a plan to save us from sin. He had a plan to demonstrate His longsuffering and loving kindness. We are part of that plan. He, as the Son would provide our propitiation. He as the Father would require it. The Spirit would enable us to see and hear. The Father is the ultimate authority. His will is the will of the trinity. The Son obeys the Fathers will and seeks to bring glory to the Father. The Spirit is subordinate to the Son and the Father. He glorifies the Son and enables us. This is not to say that He is literally a child of the Father. He was not brought forth out of the essence of God as a lower god. Jesus fulfills the role of the Son. He is eternally the Son.
In the near future, gay marriage will be a reality across the U.S. It seems that we have become the moral minority. The younger, more liberal crowd and even moderates are on board with it. Even some professing evangelicals are approving gay marriage. I don’t understand it, but it is going to happen. I have resigned myself to it as a certainty.
We’ve been told that all they want is the same rights that we have to be married. Marriage isn’t a right to be conveyed upon a people by a government. Marriage predates any human government or authority. As such, governments can only recognize what God has already ordained. In this post-Christian world of secular morals, government no longer looks to the moral authority of God, who transcends their authority. No, they look to the secular majority for their doctrine. The majority wants gay marriage to be a reality. We can’t stop it from happening. The secularists and the government will take marriage and define it how they will. That does not mean that the marriage is one of Godly ordination.
The question we need to ask now is, “What’s next?” What will they want from us? I am certain they will want the, “right” to be married in a Christian Church, by a Pastor. Now ask yourselves, “Why would a couple who don’t believe in the authoritative word of God or God Himself, want to be joined in a covenant between Him and a man and a woman? Why would they want to do this in a Church that is dedicated to God? Why would they want a minister of His word to perform the ceremony?” It doesn’t make any sense to us because our minds are being renewed by the reading of His word. We are not worldly thinkers anymore. Our moral authority is external to us. God is our Lord and master, not the sinful world system that enslaves the minds of the unregenerate.
We can’t expect them to change their minds and be reasonable. They are deceived by their very own sinful natures. It is this fact that drives them to pervert every good thing from God. They will keep doing this because they are His enemies. Because we love the Lord and are His children, the world will hate us for His namesake. This is just one step on the path to full open persecution of Christians in America. The next step will be to punish Churches that won’t perform the ceremony for them. Then it will be to arrest anyone who preaches from the Bible about Hell, sin, and mankind’s wretched state. It will be a, “hate-speech” violation to call a person a sinner and to suggest that God is anything other than love. Try it now. Try preaching the justice of God and His sovereignty. Try preaching that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Preach that all are destined for eternal torment in Hell lest they repent and put their faith in the exclusivity of the saving grace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. This is the utmost offense, that there is only one way to the Father and that is through Jesus.
If you don’t believe it will happen, then you will be surprised when oppression, in a velvet glove comes to quietly crush you in the night. Then later the gloves will be off and open persecution will come. We will see the type of persecution that happened during the communist revolution in Poland. We will see the persecution that happens to our brothers and sisters in Christ that is happening now all over the world. When it hits home it will be too late. It will be too late for us to be salt and light. There will be nobody to listen to us except to delight in our cries.
For those of you who are secular and reading this… remember. Remember what I have said this day. When it happens while you are young or much older, remember and intervene. Let it be a testimony to you. Let the screams of the tortured bounce around in your head until you see the truth of it. Then, repent and ask God to forgive you for being so very wrong. Repent and put your faith in Him to forgive you for going along with it. He is merciful and trustworthy to forgive a humbled, penitent heart. You can know peace between you and your creator through His finished work on the cross. Jesus has paid the debt that your sin has accrued. He provides righteousness for you upon your regeneration and justification. May God bless you with salvific repentance and faith.
If you could see all of your sin it would be unbearable. As Christians we see a sin that we committed and lament over it. Sometimes we spend way too much time beating ourselves up over it. Believe it or not, this comes from idolatry. We punish ourselves for sin as self-righteous idolaters. How dare we rob Jesus of the glory He is rightfully due? He paid for our sin debt on the cross of His crucifixion. He had the wrath of the Father poured out on Him unto completion, yet we dare to bemoan our lowly estate as victims! For those who are in Christ Jesus there is no condemnation of sin! Get up off your pity-pot and stand for Christ! See what He has done for you, not what you must do for yourself!
When we punish ourselves for failing it moves us away from Christ. Our shame and guilt stop us, or delay us from repenting. We languor in our own guilt and shame, powerless to do anything for God. We have put ourselves on the cross and on the throne of our lives. “I messed up so I must pay the price.” How ridiculous are we? How could we ever hope to pay the price for our own sin? It is this kind of narrow, short sighted view of sin that keeps us in bondage to the guilt and shame that separate us from our assurance.
What we need, is to see our sins as manifold as they are. We need to see them as God sees them. He is infinite in His authority. He is perfect in His righteousness. We can not fathom these things. Our finite minds see our occasional sin in part, never the way God sees them. He sees every… single… last… one… in… perfect… entirety… Think about this for a moment. Sinners! Don’t waste time whipping yourselves! By His stripes are we healed! It was Him upon the cross not you! Now that you see things in the proper light, don’t delay, REPENT! Go and serve your King with joy in your heart, knowing the Good God forgave you the bad sinner. All glory to God in the highest!
When two people get married, usually they are in love. This is true for Christians and the lost. What happens when one person stops being in love with the other? However this comes about, let’s assume that it has happened. In a marriage of lost people, what is there to keep them together? Once the one spouse realizes the other is no longer in love with them, why should they stay? Why would anyone want to stay in a marriage where they are not cherished and loved? There might be some pragmatic reasons like, convenience, money, or children. Some people will stick it out just for these reasons. What is the point of all of that if you don’t have the love of your spouse? You might as well be living on your own, looking for someone to share love with.
Nobody gets married, thinking that one day they won’t be in love anymore. People get married to share their love and lives together. So what happens to a Christian couple when one of them stops feeling in love with the other? The same thing happens to them, that happens to a lost couple. About half the time they get divorced. The others stay married out of pragmatic reasons or some sense of duty or obligation.
How should it be with a Christian couple? What should the spouse do that has found out their spouse isn’t in love with them anymore? What should the spouse do that doesn’t feel in love anymore? Should they divorce and look for someone to be in love with? Should they stick together because of duty, obligation, or their faith? We know that God hates divorce. We read about it in Malachi 2:16 “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” So the Christian couple should stay together, but that doesn’t fix the problem.
They are not in love anymore. Either both of them have no feelings for each other, or one of them has lost their feelings for the other. How do we resolve this? What does the bible say about love? We read this about love and God’s love in 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, “1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.
So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”
How pointless is life without love? The love of Jesus for us, the love we should have for each other is explained in the cross of Christ. In 1 John 4:7-13 we read this, “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit.” Are we starting to get the picture?
Maybe they are not in love anymore because one or both of them feel like they have been wronged or victimized? If so, they are holding on to hurt feelings and resentment. Healing of their marriage can’t happen until they forgive each other. In Matthew 6:15 we read, “but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Ephesians 4:31-31, “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
We know that in a marriage there are two sinners living together. Sins are bound to happen. One of them will sin against the other and the other might sin back or sin in the way of harboring a grudge, hurt feelings, or resentment. If these things are left undealt with they will keep coming up to cause problems. Both people must repent. Sometimes one person believes they never did anything wrong. They think, “It is all the other persons fault, I don’t need to repent. What could I have possible done wrong? They are the one who hurt me!” Most of the time, both people are thinking the same thing. This is why both need to repent and ask not only God to forgive them, but they have to ask for forgiveness from the other. When you humble yourself and come to someone asking them for something that they can give or deny it takes the power away from you. You are at their mercy. Hopefully you have a truly saved spouse who can see their own sin and grant you their forgiveness because of how much they have been forgiven by Christ.
Even still, while you are living in this torment you can’t give up. As Christians you aren’t allowed to stop loving your spouse just because they aren’t in love with you anymore. Oh, you might want to. You might even feel yourself beginning to resent them as you put yourself on the throne of your life. You might hear, “You poor, poor person you… You don’t deserve to be treated like that by them! How dare they! Don’t they know how good they’ve got it with you? You’ll teach them! You’ll leave, and then what will they do?” So you like what sin is telling you?
Do you want to be on the pitty pot? You have failed to remember that you are the worst kind of sinner. Christ bled and died for your sins. Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” 1 John 4:10, “In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” Jesus pursued us, our salvation, and the Father’s will, all the way to the cross and the grave. How dare we give up on forgiving, loving, and repenting!
Sinners who don’t think that they have been loved the way they think they should be, you have been loved by Jesus in spite of your many sins against Him. Your sins are responsible for His suffering on the cross. You don’t deserve love! You deserve death and Hell, being so self-centered, to think that you deserve to be treated with love from anyone is ludicrous. Repent of your selfishness, ask Jesus to forgive you. Ask your spouse to forgive you for not loving them selflessly, even if your love is not reciprocated. Love them, while they are yet, not in love with you. The only love you need is the love of Christ. Pour yourself out for them the way Christ did for you, and Love them to the grave. See your sins, and how much they cost Christ. Look at your spouse, and see them for what they are. They are a sinner, just like you, in need of The Saviors’ grace. Demonstrate love and mercy towards them, because you have experienced the love and mercy of God. Repent of harboring bitterness and forgive them. Fill your heart with the love of God and then pour it out as a merciful balm of healing on your marriage. Together, repent and be restored to each other and God. God can make all things new, including your marriage. You should know this, because when you were saved, He made you new.