I heard that a famous singer recently was divorced by his wife. This young man was a poor, working class, guy. He struck it rich with a country song. As men, we work our tails off trying to give what we can to our families. We don’t withhold what we can responsibly give to the wife, and kids. Money has a strange effect on people. His wife left him, and took half of everything with her, while also trying to get 60% of all of his future earnings. This seems evil to me. So, he wrote another song about a scornful woman.
Ladies, my wife heard about this, and rightly wondered, “Why leave? You can stay, and share all the money, and the good times together.” She knows, from experience, that the money I made over the years was never, “my money.” I always told her it is our money. This didn’t mean she could just go spend money on whatever she felt like. We had 4 kids, bills, and responsibilities. Thinking to yourself, “I want mine!” is a very childish, selfish, and immature mindset.
We are not rich. We never were rich. We started out in a low-income apartment, with furniture given to us from our families. We didn’t have a television. All we had for entertainment was a boombox. After a year or so, my Father-in-law gave us a small portable black, and white TV. On paydays, I would go to the video store, and rent a VCR, a cartoon video tape, and a movie for us. Keep in mind, this is before internet. This was a good time for us.
After a few years of hard work, we finally got a small house. It was about 1000sq/ft with one bathroom. My parents were poor. My in-laws were poor as well. They were never able to help much. I remember not being able to buy hamburger for my kids to have dinner one night. We were out of cash. I broke down, and cried. I felt like a failure. The only thing I could do to get the kids dinner that night was call my dad, and ask for help. He went to Albertson’s, and bought us a package of hamburger, and Hamburger Helper.
As the years went by, the family grew up, and moved out. I finally got old enough to retire from Corrections, and get my pension. We’ve never been able to go on a fancy vacation, and I don’t think we ever will be. I sacrificed every material want for the good of my family. My wife did the same. We are a team. We were not perfect. We made mistakes, but as we go older we got better.
I had a good chunk of change in a retirement account. My wife encouraged me to use some to get a car that I’ve wanted for a long time. I did. I bought her some nice furniture, and then Biden’s inflation got the rest. I never thought about the money as, “my money.” My wife never wanted, “her fair share.” It is our retirement.
Please stop being selfish, immature, entitled, people. You are breaking up your families for sinful reasons. Understand that even the best person is still a sinner who deserves death, and hell.
Stop making your marriage a competition of suffering, and virtue. You are not the victim. It isn’t 50%-50% in marriage. It is all for one, and one for all. You are not the virtuous victim as a stay at home mom. You get to raise up your children, and spend all day with them. By the time dad gets off work, he is exhausted, and even though he would love to spend time with the kids doing fun things, he has to get cleaned up, and get ready for the next day. Work for a man isn’t just an 8 hour shift. He wakes up early to get ready for work, and fight traffic. When he gets done with work, he may have errands to do, and still fight traffic to come home. His work never ends. Women claim they never get a break like he does. It is ridiculous. What? Dad gets to stop being dad when he gets off work? Don’t be foolish. Stop thinking of your life as some tedious competition of misery. Start seeing the blessings you have. Read your Bible. Go to Church. Pray to God. Give thanks. Decide to be content, and happy with your lot in life. The modern feminists have sold you all a bunch of lies. Those lies, and your behavior has destroyed more marriages than I can count.
Back to the famous singer. His wife could have had it all. She did have it all, but she must have convinced herself that life would be better if she had half of the money, and half of the family. It is disgusting. Marriage is a holy covenant between the husband, wife, and God. We have secularized marriage. We have commercialized divorce. We have marginalized children, and we wonder why our society is going down the tubes.
Young women, please turn to God. Trust Jesus. Stay with your husbands. Work it out. You think life is hard now? Try it as a single mother, who has never fixed her flaws, and brings them into every new relationship. No matter where you go, there you are. You’ll go from man to man, bringing more baggage each time. It is better to stay with your man, and kids. It is better to have it all, and be together, than to split it, and be a fractured person. Marriage is the union of two into one. The Bible says that the two become one in flesh, and spirit. Think about this the next time you start getting selfish, and want to believe the lies of the world.